Odds are, there's a progressive "church" somewhere telling people that's how to react to a date. Complain about the food, the atmosphere, the cost, the service, and all the rest, but be sure to enjoy everything modern dating expects to "
happen" after dinner is over. Despise the entrée for not being properly green-sourced and the restaurant for being unironic in their kitschy décor? Sure. Revile the waitress for misgendering your beverage by asking if she should refill "it"? Yup. Then when it comes to skipping out on the check—for said microaggressions, of course—or engaging in less-moral "dating" activities, be sure to deeply enjoy that.
To be fair…ish…that's probably not as simplistic as a woke "congregation" would be. As a parallel, the expression
"love the sinner, hate the sin" is not
exactly what the Bible says, and is easy to misapply as a result. The conservative church-goer who feels the need to constantly evoke that phrase is probably not making the distinction clear enough in practice.
Similarly, the "hate the dinner, love the sin" crowd likely won't define carping about the pronouns of ice cubes, or reverse-mansplaining reasons why "food licenses" are relics of the patriarchy, etc. as examples of "hate." Nor would they admit that extramarital activities are a sin. Regardless of said opinions, it's not something the Bible recommends.